PinnedPublished inBe YourselfTHE DNA OF DADSDNA testing sometimes reveals truths– the ones your family will not. Recently it confirmed my life-long hypothesis: the man I knew to be my…Nov 20, 2022A response icon2Nov 20, 2022A response icon2
PinnedBlack Dad — The OffingI send my youngest adopted daughter Instagram memes and Tik Toks: If you know these eight songs, you’re Blackity Black. Three ways to lose…Sep 29Sep 29
PinnedStill LovingI’ve often wondered what a dirt-poor, white handyman would see in a poorly educated, black domestic worker.Jun 12, 2021A response icon1Jun 12, 2021A response icon1
Published inHuman PartsFathers’ Day: Celebrating the Straight Man who Made me a Gay Dad.The day once belonged just to both my husband and me, her gay adoptive dads. But this year, my daughter welcomed a third dad into her life.Jun 12, 2024A response icon11Jun 12, 2024A response icon11
My daughter struggled through high school. Graduation season is bittersweet.As each high school graduate approached the microphone at the synagogue we attend to discuss their future plans, I shrank back in my seat…Jun 14, 2022Jun 14, 2022
Published inVunelaSome of the best goals I’ve ever set at work or in life, I’ve missed.For more than 15 years, I’ve been missing set goals. Each New Year’s Eve, my husband and I have a tradition. We each make a list of our…Jan 7, 2022Jan 7, 2022
Racial ‘passing’ is still a reality. Here’s why I embraced my complex identityHow passing can teach us to reach our true identitiesDec 6, 2021Dec 6, 2021
Published inAn Injustice!I’m White on the Outside, but Black Through and ThroughMy family had a complicated relationship with raceNov 27, 2021A response icon5Nov 27, 2021A response icon5
Published inBe YourselfI’m not afraid to spill family secretsThe cynic in me says I’ve made a side hustle out of airing my family’s dirty laundry.Oct 14, 2021Oct 14, 2021
A birth certificate masked my multiracial truthMy face burned — whether with anger or shame, I wasn’t sure. In 1994, I stood outside human resources at the CBS offices in the Los…Aug 31, 2021Aug 31, 2021
