PinnedPublished inHuman PartsFathers’ Day: Celebrating the Straight Man who Made me a Gay Dad.The day once belonged just to both my husband and me, her gay adoptive dads. But this year, my daughter welcomed a third dad into her life.Jun 1211Jun 1211
PinnedPublished inAn Injustice!I’m White on the Outside, but Black Through and ThroughMy family had a complicated relationship with raceNov 27, 20215Nov 27, 20215
PinnedPublished inBe YourselfI’m not afraid to spill family secretsThe cynic in me says I’ve made a side hustle out of airing my family’s dirty laundry.Oct 14, 2021Oct 14, 2021
PinnedStill LovingI’ve often wondered what a dirt-poor, white handyman would see in a poorly educated, black domestic worker.Jun 12, 20211Jun 12, 20211
PinnedThe pandemic has placed my daughters on unequal footing. I’m not sure what’s next.In the national debate over reopening school buildings, the parents of more than 50 million American school children were forced to make…Aug 6, 2020Aug 6, 2020
Published inBe YourselfTHE DNA OF DADSDNA testing sometimes reveals truths– the ones your family will not. Recently it confirmed my life-long hypothesis: the man I knew to be my…Nov 20, 20222Nov 20, 20222
My daughter struggled through high school. Graduation season is bittersweet.As each high school graduate approached the microphone at the synagogue we attend to discuss their future plans, I shrank back in my seat…Jun 14, 2022Jun 14, 2022
Published inVunelaSome of the best goals I’ve ever set at work or in life, I’ve missed.For more than 15 years, I’ve been missing set goals. Each New Year’s Eve, my husband and I have a tradition. We each make a list of our…Jan 7, 2022Jan 7, 2022
Racial ‘passing’ is still a reality. Here’s why I embraced my complex identityHow passing can teach us to reach our true identitiesDec 6, 2021Dec 6, 2021
A birth certificate masked my multiracial truthMy face burned — whether with anger or shame, I wasn’t sure. In 1994, I stood outside human resources at the CBS offices in the Los…Aug 31, 2021Aug 31, 2021